When a person “moves on,” then that person is going beyond the situation, trying to not let what happened influence emotions, thoughts, or behaviors now. When a person forgives, then that person actually is focusing on the other or others who have been unfair.
Can one let go without involving others? We don’t forget things but can choose not to think of them. I believe there is Christian forgiveness and psychological forgiveness. I’d rather talk to the chair than with a priest. On a visit to the psychiatrist, she suggested, if agitated, breathe deeply and think of colorful leaves floating under a bridge; put your troubles or anger on one of them and feel it float away. On a Friday, when I went to confession, the priest told me I was a bad person for having those thoughts and implied God would not forgive me until I prayed five Hail Mary’s.
Forgiveness can be good for your health. … The positive effects of forgiveness can only help you heal if it’s something you choose, therapists say. According to Deborah Schurman-Kauflin, it is completely possible to move on and heal from trauma without forgiving the perpetrator.
What is forgiveness and letting go psychologically? It means willing to forgive someone without condoning or excusing what they did, and then letting it go. … According to Dr. Robert Enright, a professor of educational psychology at the University of Wisconsin and a pioneer in the scientific study of forgiveness – forgiveness is a choice.
I have found the most meaningful forgiveness is for me to let go. It’s not dependent on others. The experience can define you and motivate you. It will mold you. (EZM)