Slide your oil-soaked fingertips over the skin of your partner’s back and try out the following motions:

The history of massage therapy dates back to 3000 BCE (or earlier) in India, where it was considered a sacred system of natural healing. Used by Hindus in Ayurveda “life health” medicine, massage therapy was a practice passed down through generations to heal injuries, relieve pain, and prevent and cure illnesses.

The Kama Sutra (/ˈkɑːmə ˈsuːtrə/Sanskrit: कामसूत्र, pronunciation (help·info), Kāma-sūtra; lit. ‘Principles of Love’) is an ancient Indian[1][2] Sanskrit text on sexuality, eroticism and emotional fulfillment in life. [3][4][5] Attributed to Vātsyāyana,[6] The Kama Sutra is neither exclusively nor predominantly a sex manual on sex positions,[3] but instead was written as a guide to the art of living well, the nature of love, finding a life partner, maintaining one’s love life, and other aspects of pleasure-oriented faculties of human life. [3][7][8] It is a sutra-genre text with terse aphoristic verses that have survived into the modern era with different bhāṣyas (exposition and commentaries). The text is a mix of prose and anustubh-meter poetry verses. The text acknowledges the Hindu concept of Purusharthas and lists desire, sexuality, and emotional fulfillment as one of the proper goals of life. Its chapters discuss methods for courtship, training in the arts to be socially engaging, finding a partner, flirting, maintaining power in a married life, when and how to commit adultery, sexual positions, and other topics. [9]. The majority of the book is about the philosophy and theory of love, what triggers desire, what sustains it, and how and when it is good or bad. [10][11]

The text is one of many Indian texts on Kama Shastra. [12]. It is a much-translated work in Indian and non-Indian languages. The Kamasutra has influenced many secondary texts after the 4th-century CE and the Indian arts, as exemplified by the pervasive presence of Kama-related reliefs and sculptures in old Hindu temples. Of these, the Khajuraho in Madhya Pradesh is a UNESCO World Heritage Site. [13] Among the surviving temples in north India, one in Rajasthan sculpts all the significant chapters and sexual positions to illustrate the Kamasutra. [14] According to Wendy Doniger, the Kamasutra became “one of the most pirated books in the English language” soon after it was published in 1883 by Richard Burton. This first European edition by Burton does not faithfully reflect much in the Kamasutra because he revised the collaborative translation by Bhagavanlal Indrajit and Shivaram Parashuram Bhide with Forster Arbuthnot to suit 19th-century Victorian tastes. [15]


Erotic massage is one of the most exhilarating forms of foreplay. It relaxes the muscles, dissipates tensions, calms the mind, and prepares us to totally let go in a session of torrid sex. It is an opportunity to share tenderness, affection, and unhindered skin-to-skin contact. Caressing is the most important element of foreplay.

The technique of erotic massage requires good timing and a calm approach. The ideal situation involves a quiet period of time when you won’t be disturbed. Turn off the cell phone, make sure the thermostat is set to a comfortable temperature, around 75˚ Fahrenheit (25˚C), and include, if it suits your fancy, some soothingly appropriate music, red roses, incense. . . .

Aromatic oils and massage lotions will be your best friends. There is a huge range of choices available in the marketplace; just make sure that whatever you buy is quickly absorbable. Remember that creams take longer to be absorbed and can leave a disagreeable taste if, once the massage is underway, you wish to switch to using lips or tongue to stimulate your partner’s body. So try pure oils such as olive oil, almond oil, and sunflower oil, all of which you can apply directly to the skin or mix with essential oils of sandalwood, ylang-ylang, patchouli, etc. If you want to make your own massage oil, it will suffice to add a couple of drops of essential oil to two tablespoons (30 ml) of any oil you use for a base. For mixing, it is better to choose an oil base that is odorless. Don’t use virgin olive oil for mixing, since its odor is too strong and it doesn’t mix well with the various essential oils. Besides, it will outlast any other aroma you happen to use.

Begin to undress your partner or have him or her do it themselves. The ideal position for them is face down with the head tilted to the side and arms half-bent at the same level as the head. It’s important that your partner feel comfortable throughout the whole process. Cover the buttocks with a soft towel if he or she feels a little chilly at the start (the idea, however, is to get them warmed up in a hurry). Since it is bound to be quite cold, warm a bit of aromatic oil in your hands before letting it contact your partner’s skin.

Slide your oil-soaked fingertips over the skin of your partner’s back and try out the following motions:

Circular. With the palms of your hands, employ different pressures on the back, making circles using a clockwise motion.

Sliding. Place your hands at the base of your partner’s spine, with the fingers pointing upwards towards the head. Using your body weight, slide both hands along the length of the spinal column.

In our sexual massage, we can begin by caressing and gently rubbing the extremities, the hands, the feet, and the face. Later on, try out a gentle head massage. Pay careful attention to the back of the head, since it is extremely sensitive, and this way you will cause your lover to melt in ecstasy. Pay attention, as well, to the temples and crown of the head. Little by little we get into massaging the back, the neck, the shoulders, the legs. With the next pass we work the thighs, then inside the thighs, and then the breasts. And finally, the genitals.

Remember that you are not confined to using just your hands, but can also use such objects as feathers, a fringe, a silk handkerchief, etc. There are, besides, specific areas very sensitive to gentle rubbing, such as the earlobes, the cheeks, the neck and its nape, the inner part of the arms, the navel, the calves, and between the fingers and toes of the hands and feet.

You can also use your saliva and light blowing to cause differences in temperature on different areas of the skin such as the back or nape of the neck.

It’s important that during erotic massage we avail ourselves of the sensations that are offered through the touching of our partner’s body, exploring its curves, how it tenses here and there, its shapes, experiencing contact with the naked skin, taking note of the slightest details, while expressing complete gentleness and passion. (Pg.15)

WE&P by: EZorrillaM.

“Oral Sex for Every Body: Giving and Receiving for Men and Women” by Tina Robbins