good news, getting angry with your partner is perfectly normal – today’s card

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Queen of Cups is a card used in Latin suited playing cards. It is the Queen from the suit of Cups. In Tarot, it is part of what tarot card readers call the “Minor Arcana”. Tarot cards are used throughout much of Europe to play parlor games. 

As a person, the Queen of Cups represents a mature female or feminine person who is kind, caring, and supportive. The Queen of Cups is sentimental, sensitive, and a good listener. She is empathetic to others’ feelings. As a mother, partner, or friend, the Queen of Cups is affectionate, loving, and warm.

However, reversed, the Queen of Cups can be perverse, stubborn, strangely wrongheaded, and wildly offensive. 

Some common synonyms of perverse are balky, contrary, restive, and wayward. While all these words mean “inclined to resist authority or control,” perverse may imply wrongheaded, determined, or cranky opposition to what is reasonable or customary. Most people think of both “perverse” and “perverted.” The sex-related meanings of words tend to drive out all other definitions. 

A perversion is a form of human behavior that deviates from what is considered orthodox or normal. Although the term perversion can refer to various forms of deviation, it is most often used to describe sexual behaviors that are considered particularly abnormal, repulsive, or obsessive. The pair relates only in contexts having to do with desire, but “perverse” properly has the function of signifying “uncompromising” and “obstinate.”

The Latin word pervertere, “turn around,” serves as the basis for the noun perversion, suggesting something contrary to something else. The term developed a religious meaning in the 15th century when referring to any distortion of church doctrine and thus its negative connotation. 

How do you come back from a perverse argument?

Apologize by saying the following.

  • “I did not realize the effect this had on you and me. I’m sorry.”
  • “I apologize; I did not mean to hurt you.”
  • “I hear you. Thank you for talking to me about it. I’m sorry this happened.”
  • “I’m sorry we’re fighting.”

7 Tips For Repairing Your Relationship After A Fight

  1. Give Each Other Time And Space. After an argument with your partner, giving each other time and space is essential. 
  2. Feel Your Feelings. 
  3. Use I Statements. 
  4. Actively Listen and mirror your partner.
  5. Take A Break every thirty minutes or less. 
  6. Apologize And Reconnect; find common ground. 
  7. Make A Plan For The Future, together or apart.

How do you make a 5-year plan for life?

  1. Step 1: Brainstorm what you want in life. 
  2. Step 2: List your skills, experience, and past success. 
  3. Step 3: Research the ideas you wrote down in Step 1. 
  4. Step 4: Define your goals and desires and match them with your experience. 
  5. Step 5: Create steps, benchmarks, and a timeline for each destination. A roadmap for learning and executing.
  6. Step 6: Initiate the actions set in Step 5 to reach your goals.

The good news is that getting angry with your partner is perfectly normal and perfectly healthy when handled correctly. When you feel that first temper flare in disagreement with something your partner did or said, breathe and take a step back. Arguing does not have to be malicious or cruel — you can have loving and compassionate conflict. Anger is a natural emotion that alerts us, letting us know that something doesn’t feel good for us, and it is good to let our partner know. (EZM)