Signs of Lust include spending time in the bedroom with them instead of being around people. Lust entails the desire for constant sexual fulfillment, leading to most of one’s time spent indoors. Sex drive is a spectrum: there is no universal “normal.” Regardless of gender, many things, not just hormones like testosterone, pheromones, and androgens, influence the desire for sex. Gender stereotypes about libido don’t hold up; people of all genders think a lot about sex, which is normal. Lust is a feeling that alters the chemicals in our brains.
Pornography? Some say it’s perfectly healthy and natural. Watching it can be a learning experience, helping you learn your likes and dislikes and those of your partner. Some couples use it as foreplay. It can even help relieve stress when no available lovers are on our radar. The desire for sexual gratification drives Lust. The evolutionary basis stems from our need to reproduce; a need shared among all living things. Through reproduction, organisms pass on their genes and thus contribute to the perpetuation of their species.
Understanding the difference between love and Lust can be tricky, especially because Lust is frequently the first phase of most romantic relationships. Lust is about a physical or sexual attraction, whereas love might encompass Lust, but it’s more emotional and includes caring for the other person. It can last up to two years, but Lust doesn’t inevitably develop into an amorous engagement.
Lust stems predominantly from the hypothalamus, a brain region closely tied to the autonomic nervous system that controls our heart rate, how fast we breathe, and such basic desires as hunger and thirst. However, Lust is not stronger than love. It’s a temporary sexual desire that may lead to love. Love is a powerful force that pulls two individuals into a relationship. While we like to think of love as a matter of the heart, it’s predominantly a matter of the brain. We love nothing with all of our hearts; instead, it happens in the brain when hormones (oxytocin, dopamine, adrenaline, testosterone, estrogen, and vasopressin) flood our system, creating a mix of feelings of euphoria, pleasure, or bonding. It’s that feeling of butterflies in our stomach or electricity passing through us when we touch the one we desire.
We lust from the hypothalamus and love from the depths of our ventral tegmental area, nucleus accumbens, and cerebrum. It’s a feeling of commitment and adoration for a person you’ve put effort into and built a life with. Long-lasting love requires analysis, reasoning, problem-solving skills, emotional intelligence, and learning, all chemical neuro transmissions occurring in the brain and felt in our bodies as Lust and Love.